I problem solve by nature. I think, at times, this drives friends and family (co-workers and students...) crazy. Why? Well, sometimes peeps just got to vent, and if there's an obsessive problem-solver all up in there, well, they can't vent satisfactorily. (Usually, though, you tell me that, and we're all good; I'll shut my trap and cheer you on from the sidelines, my sisters and brothers--I do love a good venting session... Plus, and this is another post altogether--it's exhausting to think you need to solve everyone's problems, and, might I add, who are you to take on that role??).
Anyway, I digress...
So, occasionally, because the problem-solver will step in (unwanted at times...yes, it's presumptuous to be a problem-solver--I admit that readily and I apologize for it all the time), we become unaccustomed to solving our own problems (myself included--I have my own bevy of problem-solvers out there...). We rely so heavily on the creative angle-finding-ability of others, that we start to see our lives in one plane. And if there's no dimension? Well, honey, then there IS only one way to approach a problem.
We need to develop that flexibility on our own--learn to approach our obstacles as that so-valuable third-party would. Why is a third-party problem solver so helpful (and, really, so tempting)? Relative objectivity. If all you can see is the color on the wall (which you hate) and not the shape of the room, well, it's pretty damned hard to arrange your furniture. See past the obvious. Distance yourself. Stand on your head. Vent. Breathe. Push some stuff around--change the angle, change the room, change your habit, find the dimension.