I don't know. It's something I struggle with all the time--what am I reacting to, and is it better to sit quietly and let the turbulence pass on its own, or do I get out there and smooth the way? When am I getting stuck in old patterns, and when am I just the quiet sucker in the corner?
You know what makes the decision for me, I've realized? What other people would think of me, as a teacher, a yogi, whatever, reacting to a situation. So, if I fly off on a (considered) rant, will people say, "oh, she's not as calm/wise/peaceful as I thought she was..."? (Ha! I don't know who would be holding these conversations, but in my brain, that's how the script goes...). Or, do I sit with the discomfort of misunderstanding, of loose ends dangling, and do nothing? What is the higher path? What is the "right" path?
And maybe, just maybe, all this consideration going into the reaction, examining the reaction, *is* the enlightened path? I don't know. I hope so. And, when I choose to swallow my words, am I not being my authentic self? Who is that? Where is the line? To paraphrase Swami Vivekananda, you can only serve the divine in the self you were granted. To try and try to be someone else, you will sit in turbulence, warring between the image and the reality.
So, still I struggle; but I try, more and more, to move that struggle from the brain to the heart. The heart cannot rationalize, which is probably the most peaceful gift it can grant us.