I think, when we remember, we can focus our days before even getting out of bed in the morning.
It's like this: I have a favorite setting on my super-fancy camera that allows me to focus on a tiny detail in the foreground, putting the rest of the frame in telescopic softness. I love that. I love that so much that sometimes I just sit for minutes at a time, focusing on different details, washing out others, and watching how that shifts my entire feeling about the landscape featured in the viewfinder.
We can do that with our days, too. You can tune ourselves to focus on compassion or love, if you have the brain for it. Or for shiny objects and light if, like me, you can't keep a concept in focus. This isn't avoidance or head-in-the-sand mentality. All that stuff is still there, but have you noticed how much we focus on negatives to *the detriment* of what is good and light and strong?
On the contrary--this is good armor. And, at least for me, suiting up is becoming more and more necessary. Armor isn't avoidance; it isn't weakness. It's protection from the worst of the battle. It ensures that we live to fight, to show up, until we're done.