I call myself a hermit and, compared to most people in my circle, that's probably accurate. But interdependence is essential to a healthy ecosystem, humans included. What becomes dangerous or, at least, damaging, is when we begin to craft our mini-societies around the core of our personality, our individuality--either to highlight or to obscure it.
If we bury ourselves in another--group or individual--then we're, at best, as good as useless--nothing more than a worker bee answering, often with relief, to orders; or, at worst, we allow ourselves to become absorbed, body and soul, into the person/group/cause until we forget that there was once a tall timbered center here--independent and life-giving, now nothing more than another log rotting in the forest.
On the other hand, if we set ourselves apart--out of fear, frustration, exhaustion, distrust, or ego--that independent, tall timbered center takes over, petrifying itself until we've become unbending, unmoving, unable to leave the cave we've set up house in.
Like everything, it's a balance. Like all balance, it's tricky--we end up on the end of the see-saw slamming into the earth more often than we'd like, and wariness creeps in. The best we can do is size up the situation--weigh ourselves against our community, see where we need help, see where we can offer help.
We are in this together.
We are in this to save ourselves.
We are in this to save each other.